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how i [definitely don’t] do it all

I’ve written about this before, but i think its a topic i need to cover again, especially as we go into a new year and everyone is being inundated with new years goals and resolutions. I get a lot of emails asking me how i do it all it. How i run a business, and have a perfect family life, and maintain my sanity and am magically generally awesome at everything, all at the same time. KAPOW.

Wouldn’t it be amazing if that was true? I’d sure love to be awesome at everything, and have it all figured out. The worst is, it’s normally other mothers who ask me this. Women just like me who are just trying to get through each day in one piece, and it breaks my heart to think that the little snippets of me you see on this blog, and Instagram and Twitter are leaving anyone with the impression that i’m doing a better job at life than them.

I’m not :)

The truth is, i absolutely 100% for sure, do not do it all. I also don’t find things easier than everyone else, or get more things done than everyone else, or have special super human parenting abilities.

Just like everyone else, I’m doing the best i can. Chris helps me a LOT. Our families help us a lot. And my faith in Jesus is why I am constantly cheerful. That’s it.

This last year i had a very hard year. As a family we had a very very hard year. We have been pelted with constant illnesses, two medical emergencies and ridiculous external conflicts. We’ve had career dramas and school dramas. We moved house, changed jobs, and had a new baby. I had the hardest pregnancy i’ve ever had. If you emailed me you probably didn’t hear back from me. Some mornings i’m not really sure how i’m upright. It’s been hard.

But it’s okay! Things are good even when they are hard, and a hard year has taught me how strong my family is. How important our little unit is. How amazing my husband is. How good my kids are. It’s been an important year, and i’ve grown a lot, learnt a lot, changed even. And I’m happy! I know that God has blessed me, and because of that you will see a smile on my face every single day.

This blog is a diary of my work, of my progress and successes as a designer. It’s not about my life, or my personal struggles, or my failures. It’s a scrap book of proud moments. Just remember, whenever you read someones blog, you are reading a highly edited version of their lives. Especially right now, as we end a year, and everyone is wrapping up their big moments for the year and planning the next years awesomeness. Don’t forget that it’s the highlight reel.

So if you trip over your Everest of dirty laundry on the way to the coffee machine, while your baby vomits on your favourite rug, and your other kids are half killing each other over something stupid, and the kitchen is a pile of dishes, and you’ve lost your keys AGAIN, and you can’t imagine how you could ever be more tired than you are right now, or how you will possibly get out the house this morning – let alone look like a presentable human being. You are not alone. That was my morning too :)

Pass the coffee and lets all be friends.

About Author

Meg is the Founder and Creative Director of Megan Nielsen Patterns, and is constantly dreaming up ideas for new sewing patterns and ways to make your sewing journey more enjoyable! She gets really excited about design details and is always trying to add way too many variations to our patterns.

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Giusy
7 years ago

:) you wrote it, and that’s why We love you! Thanks for sharing the other side of a parent day life :) anyway, you’re special as well, because your patterns are beautiful, because you don’t complain about how hard a mother’s journey could be and just because you are done all this with no DIVA claims. Have a fantastic coming year Meghan! Xoxo, Giusy

Annette
Annette
7 years ago

So true. In this age of FB, blogs, instagram, it’s all too easy to think that all the good things that people post are the sum total of their life.

Thanks for keeping it real :-)

Simone Molloy
7 years ago

Thanks for that! It’s a well-timed, down-to-earth, and insightful reminder to all of us that we are all only human – I can relate and had to smile. <:0) Wishing you & yours a Happy 2015 filled with countless blessings!

laura
7 years ago

‘Things are good even when they are hard’ – that phrase is just so simple and true. It sums up completely how I’ve felt during the last year, that strange dual emotion of feeling pain and struggle whilst also feeling so grateful for all the love and blessings in your life. It has been a pleasure reading all of your proud moments in 2014. I hope the next year brings you and your loved ones a whole raft of health and happiness Megan
xxx
Chambray & Curls

Serene
Serene
7 years ago

Megan,

Thank you so much for writing this! You’re right about how social media showcases other peoples highlight reels. What I love and admire most about you is your attitude. I’m sure that having 3 kids and doing everything else you do is terribly hard yet you don’t complain and remain cheerful. I just love that!
Happy new year!

Freya
7 years ago

that’s how I get through as well. My faith in Jesus, and being thankful for the good things God has given me–which are so many! I’m headed for some coffee right now!

Angelina
Angelina
7 years ago

Thanks for sharing!

Ginger
7 years ago

What a lovely post! I think what people are responding to is that there’s a sense of joy and serenity that comes through in all your photos and posts… it seems so clear that you’re where you’re meant to be and that your family means the world to you. I hope that 2015 is an easier year for you and that the five of you grow closer in it. I so love reading about your sweet family and am really glad to have “met” you. :)

Kelly T
Kelly T
7 years ago

Thank you for being so honest! I have 4 children myself (5 and under) and I have people ask me the same question- I tell them, I DON’T do it all! My house is usually a mess, my kids fight, I snap at them, and am grumpy a lot! I love when mom’s can be honest and say “I don’t do it all!”. :) It makes all us mom’s feel so much better to hear there are others like us out there!

Helen
Helen
7 years ago

Thanks for the reality check. It’s so easy to assume that others are far better at life than you are. Hope 2015 is a better year for you and your family! Happy New Year! X

Hélène
Hélène
7 years ago

Love this post. Thanks for reminding me that we all go through very similar highs and lows, misses and hits. Acceptance and gratitude are the keys to go through it safe and sane. May 2015 be joyful and light.

Courtney
7 years ago

Gorgeous, thankyou! I am so glad you said this, we need reminding of it in the virtual world!

andrea k (blonde bedhead)

I don’t have any kids, but I still appreciated reading this and how no one has all their shit together..at least all the time. You have a lot on your plate and you balance it and sure you might go crazy time to time, but I’m insanely inspired by how much you’re able to balance. Happy 2015!!

Teri
7 years ago

Great post! Thanks for being real– I am pregnant with my third right now and I know the chaos is only going to get more chaotic. I just have to remember to give myself grace and think of how blessed I am!

Dara
Dara
7 years ago

Beautiful post Megan! Happy New Year!!!!

lisa g
7 years ago

Happy new year to you and your sweet family! Your points here are things I constantly need to remind myself. I always feel like I’m just not doing it right, and everyone else is so much more put together than I! Hope 2015 takes it a little easier on your family, sounds like you deserve a break!

Laura
Laura
7 years ago

Ahhhh thank you! I feel a daily stream of guilt for not being the perfect mum and wife. Younare so right, the blogging world and most social media show all the fab moments! Love your patterns and style :). My sanity ‘keeping’ moments are sewing and being creative! Thanks for inspring me :)

Lia Zak
Lia Zak
7 years ago

I love you! (in the non creepiest way possible-lol) Thank you for this post and for being real. I hope this year will be a wonderful, wonderful year for you, full of blessings from God!